Adventures of A New Stepmom
Motherhood comes in all different forms, as one Plum District staffer shares.
As a new stepmom to a 14-year old girl, Chandler, I approached this new title with serious trepidation. I mean, I never thought I would even have children. But immediately after getting engaged last year, I felt the weight and responsibility of this new title and took action. I was determined that EVERY time Chandler came to visit would be a great one! My San Francisco apartment was suddenly full of snacks, magazines, and beauty products fit for teen consumption. She happened to mention in passing her penchant for gummy worms. A five-pound bag awaited her every weekend. A balmy SF October weekend happened to have a “icy tinge” to it in the evening? A shopping excursion for winter clothes was in the works. School shoes have a minor discoloration on the toe? She got two new ones to replace them. My husband would go along with it, (admittedly with a bit of an eye-roll), but he also knew that I was developing my nurturing side and he didn’t want to stifle my determined preparations for every single visit.
One weekend, I KNEW would be a great one — shopping for 8th grade graduation dance dress. I did some reconnaissance missions at about a dozen outlets and shops in the city and had created a list, complete with names, addresses, and phone numbers of all the stylish dress shops within a 20 mile radius. I was ready.
But when the weekend came, I had to meet my own mom and get fitted for my own wedding dress. Not a big problem – my thoroughly vetted list went to my husband, and off I went to prepare for my own nuptials. As I was in the fitting room, I received two texts in rapid succession:
Greg: ”I don’t think this was a good idea.”
Chandler: ”When will you be back?”
Five minutes later, another set:
Greg: “We’re going home. Chandler is being impossible.”
Chandler: ”I just want to go with you.”
I was needed! And badly, from the looks of it. Off I went to pick up Chandler and search for a dress. Only one shop and five dresses later, we found it — an ethereal concoction of blue satin with a delicate tulle overlay. I will always remember the smile she had when she tried on that dress — the bright blue satin matched only by the bright blue of her eyes. And I think my heart was close to bursting when she hugged me and whispered, “I love you. Thank you for caring about me.” I held it together then, but burst into tears when I told my husband about it later as he cradled me in his arms. “Being a parent has great moments, doesn’t it?” he asked.
It sure does. I can’t wait for more.
Chi Le is the Market Research Manager at the Plum District home office. She recently got married and is enjoying every minute with her extended family.
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